I don’t think I hit the point on any of those books, but I’m okay with that. The truth is, I didn’t read them to take their advice, I read them to see what all the fuss was about. So it’s no surprise that I’m halfway through Steve Harvey’s book, Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man, and what I’ve taken away so far is entirely different from his intended message; which I’m guessing is be a lady but think like your man. Nope, totally missed that one. In one ear and out the other, not to be absorbed. Instead, I’m hung up on something that he says about why men cheat.
Now, there are a lot of excuses that men give for cheating, but when it comes down to it, it’s about sex. And when he’s not getting it in a relationship, he’ll get it outside it. I’m not even going to debate that because it’s not my point. My point has to do with one situation when men cheat: when you get a little older, a little more tired, have a couple kids, the relationship gets a bit stale, and the bedroom becomes a place to sleep instead of a play pen. My reaction? It wasn’t that cheating is wrong (which it is) or that the men should work with their women to make sex happen (which they should). Nope, my reaction was to fervently hope that I don’t get to the point when I don’t want sex. Why? Not because I fear my husband will leave or cheat, but because I love sex. And to say that someday I will not want it is as bad as saying that I will someday hate chocolate. So thank you Steve Harvey, because now I have a new fear to add to clowns and heights: being too busy/tired/hormonal for sex. If it ever comes to pass, please someone put me out of my misery.